Shelia Shirley Fidelman

December 1st, 1924 - October 31st, 2008

Shelia Shirley's Memory Wall

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Barry and family,
Your mom's life truly represented all the good a mother can give - both to her family and her community - a remarkable lady and wonderful friend. Last night I had a dream that included your mom and Fidelman's Lounge. An hour or so ago I read about her in the Palladium - more than a coincidence. In closing, my favorite Shelia memory is her devout dedication in guarding, with an iron fist, her basement dormitory! We love you - Al and Arlene

Al and Arlene Dickerson

Barry, Michael and Chuck,
I knew and loved Sheila for almost thirty years. She was still beautiful and glamorous at 84 years old. I'll always remember her laughter and singing, both at home and at the Mai Kai Lounge.
So sadly her death also brings an end to the one thing she fought so desperately to keep together: her family. I fervently pray and hope that you all are able to pick up the pieces in honor of Sheila and Irving. As long as I live, I'll always remember Sheila preaching to not hold gudges; that holding grudges was a "waste of energy" she said. Did she teach you three that lesson? You have the opportunity NOW to teach and give your children a wonderful gift: the gift of forgiveness. How much joy and laughter you would bring your mother looking down on all of you together at her dining room table for dinner. In love and memory of your mother, DO IT.
Love always, Mary

Mary

Dear Barry, Michael and Chuck and family,
I am so sad to get a call tonight from my dear friend, Pam, fro Skokie, who read about your mom's passing. I had such a wonderful visit with her in July. We looked at pictures and talked about how life was during the resorts' heydey. Your mom, my mom, Tedda Okun, Sarah W., Becky P, Ann S. Ann F. used to have wonderful times together. Sheila was our "Mrs. America". Always a winning smile to those who knew her. My memories are many and wonderful. I always made it a point to visit her whenever I was in South Haven. I hope I can be there for the 2009 memorial in her honor. My heart goes out to you and all her grandchildren. With loving thoughts, Fran Okun Gardberg

Francine Okun Gardberg

Fidelmans, I'm sorry to hear about Shelia. Working at the funpark for 4 years, things wouldn't have been the same without her. She didn't come for much but when she did she always kept us employees in line. My first day working she told me she was proud of you two (barry and michael) followed by stories upon stories of when she worked at the resort. Everytime she walked in the door she had a smile on her face that could brighten up anyones day. I know she was loved by many. My thoughts are with you all.

Taylor Hollis

Sheila was one of a kind...so full of energy..she possesed a great deal of talent, but most of all such wonderful enthusiasm for people and life...she always made us feel welcome and special..one of those terrific personalities that our generation seldom finds...and what an entertainer, dresser,and MC...God blessed her with a loving husband and family..but He blessed all of us that had the privilege (and fun) to know her...let us not weep, but celebrate a remarkable woman's life journey.....Tony C

Tony Canonie Jr.

This one is for my good friend, Barry..what amazing stories we have shared about our parents. Your wonderful personality, and zest for life and laughs, reflects the love and upbringing that you enjoyed...with such entertainers,for parents, it's been easy for you to follow suit...please continue to honor their legacy with your sense of humor, and love for those that are dear to you..the pain will eventually subside, but those magnificent memories will last your lifetime, old friend...Tony C

Tony Canonie Jr.

While being a bit nostalgic, I happened to think of wonderful Fidelmans resort, where as a young couple my first husband and I spent many a memorable vacation, alone and also with friends. Eating the great food and watching the nightly entertainment and listening to the Fidelmans sing and perform. I recall Mrs Fidelman singing "Mr.Wonderful" and substituting "Irving Fidelman" in place of Mr. Wonderful in the song. I will never forget the 2 of them and those beautiful times in the 50s and 60s when life was, Oh so much simpler and happier.

Harriet (Lesak) Meaders

I have such wonderful childhood memories of going to Fidelman's with my dad in the 1950's, who brought a small musical group to South Haven every summer. Sheila was warm, loving, welcoming us, and fussed over my sister Val and me... as if we were family. I remember her once wearing a deep blue satin gown as she danced a romantic tango with her "Mr. Wonderful", for whom she then improvised special lyrics, and they then sang to each other, "Irving Fidelman (tune of Mr. Wonderful).."Sheila Fidelman,", ""Irving Fidelman, I..love..you..!!" A truly terrific woman..I wish all their sons well. Did not realize Allen had left us. But I hope Barry, Mike and "Chuckie" are thriving. G*d bless you all -from New Orleans!!