Deborah “Debby ” Bergman

February 27th, 1958 - August 6th, 2024

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In the past few days I have been trying to remember every memory of Debby that I had. It finally occurred to me that I really didn’t have very many. I’d been to your house maybe three times in my life and seen Debby as many times or fewer. Passing conversations I had with her, nothing sticking out to me. I do remember in college neglecting to call my own mother to call Debby. This must have been after I was introduced to Steph through Caleb when we lived together. The funny thing is I don’t think I’d met her yet, but I remember a distinct feeling of being at home when I talked to her that time. I felt safe with her and I had zero earthly reason to do so. I remember getting off the phone and ribbing Caleb about calling her more. I wish I had taken my own advice. There are very few people that we meet whom we have nothing but good memories about. Life is almost never that simple and it’s the ones closest to us who usually hurt us. It’s not really something you can have with your own family or friends, but I had it with Debby. That’s my pearl of great value. She was such a good soul it was undeniable to my own thousands of miles away from her. I’m not sure why but that feels like it means something. I didn’t get to be with Debby much and I am that much poorer for it but I have the next best thing and that’s knowing her husband and her wonderful children who have all been a part of my family and I’s life in significant ways. If you had to ask what kind of legacy she left, just look at her kids. You all are the manifestation of her love in this life now. She shines brightly through all of you and left the mission to love others in very capable hands. In a way, I do know her because I know you all, and for that I am forever grateful. Ashley and I are so deeply sorry for your loss. We love you all; I love you all. May you all find peace and rest now just like she has.

Eli Sowry

August 13th, 2024 at 10:08pm

Debbie was a good friend that I learned to know and appreciate in my earlier years of married life. We lived across the street from each other and enjoyed each other's companionship. She was always a good listener, encourager, and helper along life's way. Her cats were always present along with her witty sense of humor and her love for God. Fun memories of taking walks, vacations, and sharing meals will always stay with me.